Comfort Zone

Something hit me while chatting with one of my buddies.. and the result of that?
"I Finally Know What I Want In My Other Half." I just have to start searching again and pray to God to let me find a better one in future, but I do not need one now. I'm just taking time to heal up now. =)
To be successful, you have to make right decisions. It is the Experiences that let you make right decisions. You gain experience by making wrong decisions.

So when big things start to happen, and I don't mean small arguments / fights kinda thing, then I guess it is more of a wake up call, and then make THE decision. So it really was more of the 'big thing' being the ignition of history. If you are the girl in this situation, you may be asked this qn: "It took you xxx years to know that he's not the one for you?"

My friend has a friend who was already planning the wedding with her bf, who was already into 6-8yrs of courtship together? Then like around one month before the wedding, the girl pulled out. How to react? The girl just suddenly snapped & realized that he simply just wasn't the one for him.

Actually, all along, he wasn't the perfect person for me. Not that anyone is perfect. Now it is more of "I guess he's really not the right one for me", just that I never got down to doing anything about it. I knew of it all along and I more of accepted him as he is, accepted him as the one for me, and all his flaws. Even when I had been highlighted about his flaws, I still chose to accept it, and I was even willing to spend my life with him initially. I believed everyone had their flaws ya, and nobody is perfect. However, there is a limit as to how much one can take.

Why, you might ask? For girls, we tend to want to stay in our comfort zone, once we're attached, especially if we are with our guy for a number of years. We are generally lazy to start all over again, to search all over again, to love all over again, and if we're comfortable with our guy, we tend to not even do anything about it -> Cos those are not worth breaking up about, probably too minor to even consider about breaking up. However, I know there are girls, who can foresee this very early and did something about it there & then.

Maybe it was more of a "Love Is Blind" case for me. Too blind initially, cos I'm a soft-hearted person. It takes A LOT of me to give up on someone (some can't believe how much determination I had), but time proved everything, which led to THE decision. I quote: "When I'm off, it will be off, and in one word - Forever."

I think this comfort zone thingy applies to a lot of girls, especially if the girl is already having dilemmas if this guy is the right one for her or not. It may even apply to jobs for some.


"I'd take another chance, take a fall
Take a shot for you
And I need you like a heart needs a beat
But it's nothin new
I loved you with a fire red-
Now it's turning blue, and you say...
"Sorry" like the angel, heaven let me think was you
But I'm afraid...

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late"